A single girl's manifesto

As a single girl looking for love, it is all too easy to believe that what worked for someone else will work for you. And for every story you hear from a happily paired off friend, you have another opportunity to put unfair expectations on a future dating prospect, and of course you create an opportunity to be more disappointed than you would have been otherwise.

And it makes it even harder to remind yourself that any man who drops you faster than a burning match isn’t the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Obviously this was spurred by an encounter with a guy, or rather an anti-encounter? What do you call a situation when a guy totally ignores you? When I met him, the circumstances eerily echoed those of a friend of mine who has been with that same girl for over a year now. I really think that it led me to have unrealistic expectations. I think I wouldn’t have been nearly so jazzed about him if I had just met him in a coffee shop or at a comedy show or something unrelated.

So, happily paired off people, please stop telling me your love stories and giving me unrealistic expectations…

Not really!! I love love stories; they give this single girl hope. And unrealistic expectations… Until I meet the right kind of guy that makes them entirely realistic.

Right?!

May

The time has come… for another attempted month of no spending! I wasn’t successful last month that I tried this, but I’m giving it another try!! Only paying basic bills & groceries for all of May… we will see how this goes!

I’m going to be moving June first, so this is a good time for me to buckle down & save as much as I can. I just got back from Iowa, where I GRADUATED. WITH MY BACHELOR’S DEGREE! I can’t believe I am so close to being finished. I’m officially done by the end of the first week in June, but I made the cutoff to walk in the ceremony this past weekend.

And then I move on to my Masters! I’m not really sure which one I want to do yet, but I’d better figure it out. I heard there’s a waitlist for the school I want to attend.

I’ve been going to Crossfit consistently for the last two weeks. It’s still fairly intimidating, but I just try to go into it as humbly as I can, and remind myself that everyone standing around me was once as clueless as I am now. And that someday in the future, I get to be the awesome person encouraging a newbie! I can’t lie, that’s probably my biggest motivator for learning all of the movements. Offering encouragement and teaching others is so rewarding. I just love making sure people don’t feel bad for not knowing everything! I always loved doing that when I was learning how to swing dance. Swing dancing is one of the few things that I have ever had a natural affinity for. Anytime I dance with someone new & they ask how long I’ve been dancing, my reply always shocks them! It’s a pretty great feeling, but I do still understand that dancing is HARD TO LEARN. So when I’m in a group class and get partnered with a guy who is clearly new & he apologizes, I tell him not to! I tell them that everyone was new once, and anyone who makes them feel bad for learning isn’t worth paying attention to.

I used to train people at work all the time, but we haven’t been hiring as freely, so I haven’t had a new hire shadow with me in probably two years! What a bummer.

May is an exciting month for me; I flew to Iowa & graduated, then stayed for a few days to visit with Mom & family. Then I’ll be apartment searching the this weekend, going to Las Vegas for the christening of the daughter of some dear friends, who recently surprised me by asking me to be her godmother! You could have knocked me over with a feather when they asked! Thankfully, the third weekend this month is a 3-day weekend, so hopefully I will be able to find a place & move in that weekend. That would be ideal!